I turned 36 on Monday and I don’t know if it is the pregnancy or being another year older, but it was a bit emotional and very insightful.

I posted about my “scary age” last year and some of the things I was thankful for — and if I’m being really honest, cried reading it today. 35 was a big year for us and I feel like I learned and grew more in the past year than maybe in any of my years so far!

lessons from a 36 year old

lessons from the past year.

  • Self care is a must. It took me a really long time to fully understand this after Adelaide was born. I had such guilt when I would do anything that was just for me. But in the last year, I have come to realize that when I practice self care I am a much better mom, wife, daughter, sister and friend. So regardless of what your self care looks like — the gym, the spa, a good book, whatever — practice it … and often.
  • Learn where to turn in difficult times. If you’ve been reading the blog for some time, you know that last year we experienced the extreme loss of a miscarriage. Through this indescribable pain, I quickly learned that the best place for me to turn first is to God — mostly through prayer. The second place I turn is my amazing, loving and kind husband. More often than not, once I’ve spent time with both God and Walt, I feel a sense of relief and strength.
  • There’s never a perfect time to start. If I’d waited for the perfect time to start this blog, I never would have. And the same rings true for my decision to become a Beautycounter consultant. I honestly didn’t have “time” to add one more thing to my list, but this company represents something that I am passionate about — clean beauty for all.
  • Quality over quantity. The past year has taught me a lot about friendships — mainly the need to choose quality over quantity. In good times and especially in the bad times, your tribe should be there to support you above all else. So find your tribe, even if it’s a small one, and love them fiercely because one day you may find yourself broken and in need of that same fierce love.
  • Your mind is more powerful than you think. This is one that I struggle with every single day. Our minds are such a powerful tool — or weapon depending on the day. And I spent a lot of time in the past year trying to be more aware of negative self-talk and negative thoughts. Our thoughts become what we believe about ourselves, our relationships and our abilities. I have not perfected this by any means, but I try every single day to be kind to myself and to think positively about every aspect of my life. One of my friends recently posted something about starting sentences with “I get to…” rather than “I have to…” and this is something I can totally get on board with!
  • PLAY! I’m telling y’all — our kids are doing it right … constant playtime and amazement of the world around them. I’ve made an effort this year to really play with Adelaide — the laundry and dishes can wait. {read more here and here.} And I think that it has had a positive impact on both of us. It shows her that I see her and that I want to be involved with her and it helps me realize the joys in the small things — leaving both of us with full hearts.
  • Never apologize for sharing your story. Whether you’re sharing an accomplishment that you’re incredibly proud of or something that is sad, do not apologize for sharing! It’s your story and you should own it — the good, the bad and the ugly. If someone doesn’t want to hear it or if it makes them uncomfortable, they don’t deserve to listen anyways!
lessons from a 36 year old

So there you have it, my biggest pieces of advice — to myself and others — that I’m taking into my 36th year. Like I said earlier, I really feel like in the last year I have grown so much — leaving me more confident in my own capabilities as a mom, wife, friend, and business person! Thank you as always for sharing my journey with me!

lessons from a 36 year old

Now it’s your turn, what are your biggest pieces of life advice? Tell me in the comments!

xo, LC

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