A few weeks ago I found myself dreading everything about this blogging gig, and then feeling guilty for dreading this job that I chose — and that most days I love. I knew I needed a change of some sort — or at the very least a break to figure out my goals for my little corner of the internet. So I decided that while we were on family vacation for the better part of a week, I would take a break from all of it — the blog, Instagram, Pinterest, and Facebook. My hope was that this break would give me some clarity — and that it did!

why I detoxed.

hours of mindless scrolling.

I found myself mindlessly scrolling … a lot. I’d heard of the Instagram rabbit hole from so many people, but never realized that I was falling into this trap as well — until my sweet Adelaide started telling me to put my phone down. And y’all there is nothing more heartbreaking than your two-year-old feeling less important than your iPhone.

overwhelming ocean of content.

There is no shortage of content out here in the world wide web. And now that everything has an app, it’s literally all at your fingertips– which means that it is really easy to spend hours and hours browsing who-knows-what. And I found myself doing this … a lot. {notice a pattern here?} This meant that not only was I not present in the moment, but I was also incredibly unproductive.

cruel comparisons.

It’s no secret that the social media world is often filled with people’s highlight reels. But that doesn’t mean that we aren’t constantly comparing our real lives to other people’s highlight reels. And y’all — I was in a bad place in the world of comparisons. Constantly asking why I didn’t have as many followers, or as many likes … why other girls were so much smaller than I was and further along in their pregnancy … how other people had so many designer handbags … and the list goes on and on. I needed to check myself and what I do have in a very real way.

what happened when I detoxed.

In a word: freedom! Seriously not constantly worrying about posting or about editing or about commenting on others’ posts was so incredibly freeing. I almost didn’t know what to do with my time … almost.

The other things:

  • I forgot my phone. Like legitimately forgot it when we left the house instead of double and triple checking it was in my bag.
  • I slept better. Granted I always sleep better with some salty sea air in my lungs, but not falling asleep with a running list of things I needed to do or things I needed to buy was so relaxing.
  • I played with Adelaide. Like really, truly PLAYED. And you could tell a big difference in how she responded to playtime overall!
  • I caught up with Walt. Instead of sitting on the couch working every evening, we sat outside and actually had real, meaningful conversations. Shocking, I know.
  • I took pictures for fun. Without worrying if they were “postable”. And honestly, I took very few of them … mostly because I’d forgotten all about bringing my phone everywhere we went.
  • I read a book. For pleasure … one that had nothing to do with work of any sort.

my plan going forward.

First things first, I am setting some serious boundaries when it comes to social media. I know this sounds extreme, but it’s so easy for me to go down the rabbit hole I mentioned earlier if I don’t set parameters. For now, I’m attempting to do a 15 minute “check in” every 2 hours — and we’ll see how that goes. I think this will also help me stay focused on what’s right in front of me — whether that’s my family or my work. My second big intention is to set personal goals for myself in hopes to alleviate some of the constant comparison. If I am meeting my personal goals, then this should be the only thing I’m focused on. Of course, it’s impossible not to look at what other people are doing, but I can’t possibly know everyone’s goals and/or if they are meeting those goals — therefore, shouldn’t be able to compare theirs to mine. Overall, my goal is to be more fully present and focused on not only what’s in front of me, but everything that I have planned for our real life futures.

Now it’s your turn, have you ever taken a break from all media outlets? What did you discover in doing so?

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